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Establishing Your Communicator

From the very beginning of my development, public demonstrations of mediumship have always been at the heart of my expression; and over the years, almost 20 now, I have demonstrated thousands of times, in many different countries around the world, as well as the length and breadth of the UK.

Every time I take to a platform to share the reality of the spirit world with the public, there are always two things that I am striving to achieve for the spirit world. The first is have I made sure that each contact has been communicated to the right person in the audience, and the second is have I ensure the spirit person has had complete freedom to express what it is that they needed to convey to their loved one, and have I successfully communicated this.

It is the first of these concerns that I aim to address in this article.

The Direct and Indirect Styles of Establishing your Communication

There are two different styles, or approaches, that a medium can adopt when seeking to find their recipient in an audience: the direct, and the indirect, approach. The style that a medium adopts shouldn’t be based on personal preference. Instead, it is the type of information that the medium naturally becomes aware of at the beginning of the communication that will determine which style they should use.

The direct style involves the medium allowing the power of the communicator to move their awareness to an individual in the audience, or a small group of people. By doing so, the medium effectively reduces the size of their audience, which allows the medium to identify the spirit person’s loved one when they have become aware of more general information, such as the personality of the communicator, or more common pieces of practical evidence.

The medium employs the indirect approach when they invite the whole audience to respond to their evidence at the beginning of the communication. To identify the intended recipient of the communication quickly and effectively, the evidence must be strong enough that only one, or a maximum of two, people in the whole audience can understand it. This should be achieved by using no more than two statements of evidence. This is the most difficult way of establishing a communication, and it should only be used when the medium is aware of strong practical evidence at the beginning of the communication, and the spirit person is unable to move their awareness to the location of their loved one in the audience.

Why You Need to be Conversant in Both Styles

As a medium, we must allow the spirit person to communicate whatever they need to express at the beginning of the communication. Imagine, for a moment, that a spirit person needs to share how they passed to the spirit world, perhaps because they need to thank their loved one for supporting them in their final hours. Let’s imagine that the spirit person, who is the recipient’s mother, passed with cancer, and the medium’s opening impression is that they ‘are aware of mother in the spirit world who passed with cancer.’

If the medium adopted the indirect approach to establish this communication, then in an audience of 100 people, there may be as many as 20 people in the audience who would understand the information. This is because cancer affects a lot of people, and, depending on the demographic of the audience, a large proportion of the audience may have a mother in the spirit world.

Instead, the direct approach would need to be used. By allowing the power of the spirit communicator to move the medium’s awareness to an individual in, or a small area of, the audience, the medium has now effectively reduced their audience size from 100 people to 1 person (if they become aware of the individual the spirit belongs to in the audience) or from 100 people to around 4 people (if they have been move to a small area of the audience). By trusting their direction, the medium will effectively reduce the audience size, and as a result will now be able establish who in the audience the communication is for. For instance, although there may be 20 people in the audience whose mother passed away with cancer, by using their direction the medium now knows which person they need to talk to. Similarly, if the medium’s awareness has been moved to a small area of the audience, it is likely that only 1 or 2 people within that small area they have been drawn to will understand the information, making it easy for the medium within their subsequent statements to quickly establish who the spirit person belongs to in the audience itself.

It may be argued that a medium can develop their mediumship to ensure that at the start of every communication the evidence is strong enough that only one or two people in the whole audience can understand the evidence, and thus the direct approach would not need to be developed; or that the mediumship can be developed so that direction is always available, but this is not the case.

The medium cannot demand that the spirit person tailors their need to suit the style that they prefer to adopt. If the medium demands this, then they are not giving the spirit communicator the freedom to express whatever it is they need to express at the beginning of the communication. Similarly, the medium cannot demand a particular type of information at the beginning of their communications because this will affect, in an adverse way, the way in which their mediumship needs to unfold and manifest within them in that moment. Instead, the medium must adapt their approach at the beginning of the communication to meet the need of the spirit person, and to support the naturalness of their mediumship in that moment. As such, the medium must become conversant in both style so the most appropriate style can be adopted based on their initial impressions.

In my experience, when I become aware of more general information at the beginning of a communication, the direction is always present. This occurs for two especial reasons: firstly, when we work with the spirit world we are working with an intelligence. The communicator knows that the evidence alone is not going to establish who they are, an

d who their loved one in the audience is, and so they will move the medium’s awareness to where their loved one is situated to aid the medium in establishing the communication. Secondly, every communicator will want to make sure, from the very beginning of the communication, that the medium is speaking to their loved one, and not somebody else’s. Therefore, it is the communicator’s will, at the beginning of the communication, which causes the medium’s awareness to be drawn to an individual in, or a small area of, the audience.

How Do We Develop The Direct and Indirect Approach Within our Mediumship

The key to develop the indirect approach within your demonstrations of mediumship is learning how to fully understand the visual experiences you become aware of within your mediumship, as well as when you sense practical evidence within your communications.

Often, by not fully trusting their experiences, mediums play safe and turn something which could be very specific into something general. The medium, as part of their development, needs to engage in exercises that allow them to understand the practical evidence that is being conveyed within their experiences, as well as learning how to unlock the potential within each given moment of their communications. As the medium begins to understand how their visual experiences work, and learn to trust their sensing, it will allow them to understand the strong practical evidence that is present at the beginning of their communications and will begin to develop evidence that is strong enough that can establish their communication within two statements.

When working with the direct approach, students of mediumship are often expecting this overwhelming sense of their awareness being moved

to a certain individual or area of the audience. However, direction is often very subtle, and so with experience and practice, the medium must learn to trust it. Equally as important, is to recognise that a medium may make a mistake with their direction, and if they have not learnt how to work with their direction properly when they have made a slight mistake with it, often the medium may not know what to do and so just resorts to swapping to the indirect approach, which, for the reasons already given, won’t work if the evidence is not strong enough to establish who the communicator is, as well as identifying the intended recipient.

As part of one’s development, therefore, time should be spent on not only recognising when direction is present within the communication, but also learning how to correctly work with it when a mistake has been made.

If you need more support in learning and unfolding this aspect of your mediumship, I am delivering a 5-week online course, which starts on 18th April 2023, entitled Finding Your Recipient. During this course, I will be looking at these two demonstration styles, and sharing with you exercises that will help you to develop the direct and indirect approach, as well as teaching you how to work with your direction when you have made a mistake.

This course is suitable for those who are already publicly demonstrating their mediumship, as well as those who have some experience of mediumship, and have been inspired by the spirit world to develop their mediumship for public demonstrations in the future.

If you would like to register for the course, or if you would like further information, please either click the link below, or the image at the bottom of this article.


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